How to get girls on Facebook and MySpace

Dating girls is so easy today that your grandpa should be green with envy:
Today, millions of beautiful girls online are waiting for you. Just look around you: First, they are on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also literally find millions of single women on the social networks. Yes, literally millions. There are over 100 million girls on MySpace. And there are another 250 million girls on facebook, with the numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.

You have to admit: That’s plenty of fish! You could be the most social guy in your whole area — and still, the number of hot women you might meet this way would totally fade in comparison.

You can actually compare flirting on dating sites with flirting on a singles party in your town. Social networking, on the other hand, would be more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isn’t that the most common way for people to find a girlfriend? Studies show that 56 percent of people in a relationship actually have met their partners through common friends or on their job. If you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, a whole 73 percent of them will say their social circle. This means:

Girls expect their partner to show up not on some fancy dating website but rather through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.

In the online dating world, MySpace and Facebook are as close as you can get to that. And yes, you can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can find a girlfriend on MySpace as well.

But how do you approach beautiful girls on Facebook? And how do you approach attractive girls on MySpace?

Here is what most guys will think when they stumple upon a woman’s profile: “She’s so beautiful. She probably can get any man she wants. Why would she even want to talk to me?”. And, truth be told, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends. And most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every day — all of whom are trying to get to know her.

That is no surprise:

Talking to a girl online doesn’t require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. It’s safe, because you spare yourself from any embarassing situation if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. In fact, if she’s not interested, she probably won’t even reply at all.

And because it seems so easy, many guys will give it a shot. They figure they’ve got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95 percent of the messages in a woman’s inbox will sound like “how are you doing?”, “did you have a great weekend?” or “would you like to talk to me?”.

To make a long story short, most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on Facebook or MySpace, a cute girl will be accustomed to spot and delete such messages in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig sites it’s just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages without even reading their content.

So you probably wonder what to say to a girl on MySpace, or what to say to a girl on Facebook.

How do you approach girls if you want to stand out?

How do you meet a girl online?

And, finally, how do you get a date on Facebook or MySpace?

You are not the only one with those questions. Three years ago, I used to struggle with them, too. Today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years.

What I found is: Dating girls is like building any other connection. You always need three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in fact, you will find them in any social interaction.

First, you need attention. Then you need a connection. And, third, you need commitment.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it?

Still, most guys will act on their first intuition. They will mix up the three steps as soon as they start to flirt with a girl.

Just ask yourself: What is a guy really doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive girl how her weekend was? First, isn’t that kind of a weird question, given the fact that he doesn’t know her yet? And second, that’s not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl by asking her how her weekend was, he’s actually trying to build a connection. He’s trying to make her share her thoughtsfeelings and experiences with him right from the start. A strategy that is most likely to fail: It’s simply impossible to build a connection with somebody unless you’ve got their attention first.

What does attention mean? It means to stand out from the crowd. It means that you need to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. Getting her attention means to make her curious. At least curious enough to make her reply.

Connection means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor: If you can laugh together, she will enjoy talking to you. And in the end, that will lay the foundation for the third step:

Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. At this point, she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.

So far for the theory. But how do you apply it?

Many guys wonder how to talk to girls. When they see a beautiful woman, they simply lose all their humor and fall into the trap of simply reacting to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girl’s profile. When she doesn’t reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and get defensive. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty, they think she doesn’t like them and start making excuses and being extra nice. In truth, the reality is: Whenever she replies, she is interested.

Next time you see a cutie on Facebook or on MySpace, send her the following message (without the quotes):

Subject: “I really must say…”

Body: “That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste.”

Just try it. 8 out of 10 girls on MySpace, Facebook or dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.

The reason is simple:

That message that starts out like most of the everyday mails she’s receiving from other guys (“your’re so cute”), but right in the next sentence, the whole meaning is turned upside down. Basically, you are saying that the picture is hot, and therefore you simply assume that it’s not her. The unexpected twist won’t make every girl laugh out loud, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply. But be prepared: If you tease her, she will tease back!

Don’t get me wrong:

Flirting is not about pick up lines. You could have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.

It’s not enough to know how to approach a girl. You also need to know how to talk to a girland how to have fun with her.

It is easy to meet girls on Facebook, and it is easy to meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and escalate things. You need to master all three steps of flirting — attention, connection and commitment.

Source: ideamarketers.com | Leonard Baumgardt | thecharmingyou.com